Sexting comprises of making and sharing sexual material using mobile phones or by posting material online. The images can be those of yourself or someone else naked or partially naked.
Understanding why teenagers engage in sexting is important if we are going to address the issue. Sexting has become n increasing concern for parents of teenagers and preteens. Some of the reasons why teenagers send sexually explicit photos include the following:
- As a romantic gesture
- Peer pressure or cyber bullying
- Because it feels liberating and/or grown up
- Self-esteem issues
- Sexual favours in return for other services
- Rebelliousness, or the need to be allowed to make their own decisions
For young people, sexting is more often than not consensual and something fun to do. Teenagers might see sexting as part of building friendships and boosting their own self confidence, and exploring their bodies, identities and sexuality. They also worry that their pictures will be shared with other people including family and as such young people tend to reduce this risk by sharing images with people they trust and with whom they have or might have a romantic relationship with. However some teenagers do send sexual images to people they have hardly met.
As parents and caregivers, we must be willing to engage in open and honest conversations with teenagers about sexting and sending nudes. This way parents are able to understand what sexting means to teenagers. We talk to children about bullying and talking to strangers. But what about staying safe online? Having regular conversations about what your child is doing online is the best way to keep them safe.
As embarrassing as it may feel, talking to children about sexting can be part of talking about sexuality. Your children need to know that sending nudes has risks , like sharing images without consent. Telling your child not to send nudes isn’t the best way to protect them, instead have honest conversations about sexual risks, respectful relationships and trust.
You need to also encourage your child to think what could happen if she/ he fell out with someone who has their sexual images. For example that person might share the images, and once the images are on the internet they can be difficult to remove. Besides, let them know the legal side of sexting. For example sending nudes photos of others online is a criminal offence that could get them into a lot of trouble. For example, sexting involves minors and these nude photos are considered child pornography. Let them know that if a sexting photo arrives on their phone, they should never distribute it to anyone else( that could be considered distribution of child pornography). And there are legal consequences to this.
Let your child know that sexting is a sexual activity and they have a right to say no. Let them know it’s not OK for someone to pressure them into doing anything sexual.
Teenagers always imagine that they are invincible so even when they know sexting is wrong , they don’t think they will get caught. Help your children understand that if their sexting backfires and images get into the wrong hands they will be trolled and bullied, therefore creating a harsh world for themselves.
Remember sexting can compromise your child’s reputation. Help them understand that once a photo goes viral there is no way of knowing how many people will save it or share it. The photo could re-surface years after it was taken and posted. More and more college reps and employers are now seeking information about candidates online.
As caregivers and parents, we must spend time to talk to teenagers about sex. Young people need to know it’s okay to have feelings and desires. Talk to them about the impact and consequences of acting on their desires. Do not treat sex as a taboo topic in your household, rather create the safe environment for your teen to ask questions and have open dialogue. For example if your children have sent any nudes to anyone, first of all learn as much as possible about the situation. See if it was a teen “romance thing”, a form of harassment or bullying or it was just impulsive behavior. Stay calm and be supportive as your children open up about why they are sexting.
To conclude, it is important that we educate young people on the dangers associated with sexting. There are many teens making good decisions when it comes to sexting. You will not stop your teens from sexting by adopting a stern attitude. They know they can outwit you especially if you aren’t tech-savvy. Prevention is the best form of protection. Sit down with your children in a non-confrontational and nonthreatening environment and talk to them. Adopting respectful parenting techniques combined with education, your children are likely to make the right choices.
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