Interestingly enough, the Internet came with all the goodness there is to it, but it was definitely not designed with children in mind. No one would have ever thought that our children would be so easily distracted and negatively influenced by the internet. Ideally, we all want tech- smart children. The internet is no longer just a fun and safe space for anyone, leave alone our children. Children and young people are naturally curios, so they will want to be online to see and learn as much as they can. Sadly, behind keypads and keyboards, we have sexual predators ready to lure children into the alley of online abuse.
Grooming happens when someone builds an emotional connection with a child in order to gain their trust for the purposes of sexual abuse, sexual exploitation and/ or trafficking. Groomers can be of any age, and can also be male or female. Many young people or children do not automatically know when they are being groomed.
Grooming can affect any child. However, some children may be more at risk than others such as children who are physically challenged, children in Institutions, and/or young children with access to online platforms without parental supervision.
Groomers will exploit any vulnerability to increase the child or young person’s dependence on them, and reduce the likelihood of the child speaking out.
Signs of grooming in children may not always be obvious, and most care givers may dismiss any new behaviors as normal teenage behavior especially in older children. Remember groomers will go a long way in ensuring they are not found out.
If a child is being groomed they may:
- be very secretive, including about what they are doing online
- have older boyfriends or girlfriends
- go to unusual places to meet friends
- have new things such as clothes or mobile phones that they can’t or won’t explain
- have access to drugs and alcohol.
Groomers take their time in building the trust of children. They will hide their true intentions and spend a lot of time in gaining the trust of the child.
They do this by:
- pretending to be someone they are not, for example saying they are the same age online
- offering advice or understanding
- buying gifts
- giving the child attention
- using their professional position or reputation
- taking them on trips, outings or holidays.
They may also use:
Intimidation and control. Groomers will gradually isolate children from friends and family and begin to use this isolation as a form of control. They will make the child believe that they have to do what they want. Groomers will sometimes blackmail the child from telling anyone about the abuse, or make them feel guilty or ashamed.
When this kind of exploitation happens online, young people or children may be persuaded to take part in sexual activities via webcam or phone, send posts or explicit images of themselves, have sexual chats and conversations. Abusers may thus threaten to send the images or videos or copies of chats and conversations to the young person’s friends and family, unless of course they give in to the sexual activities. Sadly, these images or videos may continue to be shared long after the abuse has stopped.
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